5 Get wisdom; develop good judgment.
    Don’t forget my words or turn away from them.
Don’t turn your back on wisdom, for she will protect you.
    Love her, and she will guard you.
Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do!
    And whatever else you do, develop good judgment.
If you prize wisdom, she will make you great.
    Embrace her, and she will honor you.
She will place a lovely wreath on your head;
     she will present you with a beautiful crown.”
NLT Prov 4:5-9

A fascinating tale is told in the Book of Proverbs about the lady Wisdom. She is always crying out in the streets to all who cares to listen. That tells me Wisdom is more than making itself available to us. Yet it’s up to us to choose it. It is no different with our relationships. Some of our crazy decisions cause Lady Wisdom to climb a ladder shouting, bellowing at the top of her lungs, in an effort to get our attention and possibly stop us.

Sometimes our downfall is our niceness which obstruct our good judgement. Our motives are sometimes as pure as snow but it takes a little more than that to spot a joker. Jokers know how to spot you with your big heart protruding from your chest. They know if there’s one thing you are – it’s understanding. They enjoy telling you about this trait of yours in order to keep you trapped. Many failed relationships could have been avoided if you were sober enough to spot a joker.

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Let’s take a look at a Joker in action. Missing an appointment with you is a low risk action because of course you will — understand. The Joker’s “ask” is always greater than his deliveries, since you’re the one doing the majority of the work in the relationship. Given another option he cancels his commitment with you, because you will — understand.

Admittedly, some jokers are much more subtle and will make convincing effort until another interest shows up. Jokers are not a safe place for your dreams and ambitions. They don’t know how to value your pearls and purpose. They would prefer that you keep the conversation solely about them and their life. That’s because most Jokers are selfish and insincere. They are seeking someone who will sustain their stardom…”spotlight on me.”

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Some ladies find it their duty to pander to this narcissistic existence, feeling gratified by being needed by someone. If that’s you, consider what need you have internally that gets a fix only by carrying out a rescue mission. It could be that you are genuinely helpful, but understand that relationships require give and take. No one party should do all the giving or all the taking. You’re deserving of a worthy partner who loves your sincere soul and sacrifices to prove that love.

Just a few Clues…

  1. Words void of follow up actions..
  2. Little respect for your time.
  3. Your not a treasure just an attraction
  4. Places little value on your ambitions and dreams.
  5. A trend of broken engagements.
  6. Little to no sacrifice.

Don’t waste your precious time with a joker. He will only change when he is ready.